When my manager asked for "a team update", I had no idea I was about to enter one of the least-talked-about experiences in a professional career. And yet within days I discovered something uncomfortable: almost everyone I told had quietly been through something similar. The nods. The knowing looks. The "yeah, that happened to me too."

So why does nobody talk about it?

Redundancy is surprisingly common, poorly understood and almost entirely absent from any conversation about career resilience... until it happens to you. A bit like pensions, really. A few people in the loop. Most people beside it. Almost nobody prepared.

Drawing from my own recent experience and 15+ years working across the software industry, this session maps the redundancy process honestly against the Kübler-Ross five stages of grief. Because it turns out you don't go through it once. You go through it twice- first through the consultation, then again through the job search. And the second loop is the one nobody warns you about.

This isn't a session about failure. It isn't toxic positivity about doors and windows either. It's an honest conversation about something that happens to good people doing good work at companies that simply pivot. You can do everything right. The role still gets deprecated.

You'll leave with a framework for recognising where you are emotionally if or when it happens, the language to talk about it (to yourself and others) and the reassurance that end of support doesn't mean end of service.

Because deprecated isn't deleted. It's just ready for what's next.