Frameworks are meant to be tweaked, that is just a part of being an engineer. Even if a new cloud native, open source framework is exactly what you are attempting to build.
This talk tells the story of what Crossplane is and what we wanted it to be. It highlights the need for the emerging Crossplane V2, and why they are different. It also illustrates a real life story when bending leads to breaking, with losing 230 production databases for a customer during maintenance. The silver lining - we kept the customer, but changed our approach.